Watching a loved one deal with substance abuse can be very difficult. However, there are some things you can do to support your family and friends as they go through the process of drug recovery.
Our friendly and supportive team at Drug, Alcohol, Mental Health Counseling & Evaluation Services, Inc. in Honolulu proudly offers help with substance abuse. As specialists in the field of substance abuse, we can walk you through anything your loved ones may need when they come to us for help.
Here are some of the top ways you can support your loved ones through drug recovery.
Remember that recovery is their choice
It can be tempting to urge your loved one to pursue recovery when you worry about them. However, the first step in recovery is admitting to having a problem. That’s why you should never try to push your loved ones into recovery if they’re not ready.
Instead, you can let them know you’re concerned, make specific suggestions about where they can find help, and have options ready when they come to you. If they decide to pursue recovery, you can encourage them to get in touch with our friendly team to help start their journey.
Never enable substance abuse
While you don’t want to force your loved one into recovery, you should also avoid enabling their substance abuse. Although you may think you are helping them, you might be enabling them if you do things that they could and should be doing themselves.
You may be enabling your loved one if you:
- Lend them money regularly
- Help every time they get in trouble
- Make excuses for them for work or school
If you notice yourself exhibiting any of the above behaviors, it may take some time to unlearn. You can still be part of your loved one’s support system without enabling them to avoid the consequences of their addiction.
Avoid judgmental language
Your loved ones may find it difficult to confide in you or admit they have an issue. While you may feel judgmental of your loved one’s substance abuse, it won’t help them if you verbalize that judgment or resort to guilt or shame.
Instead, emphasize that you love and support them. Use “I” statements, empathize with their circumstances, and keep an open mind as they share their struggles.
Take care of yourself
It can be hard helping a loved one through drug recovery. That’s why you must also take care of yourself. Speak with a therapist or join groups for friends and family members affected by addiction, such as Al-Anon, for support.
If your loved one is ready to find help, call our team at Drug, Alcohol, Mental Health Counseling & Evaluation Services, Inc. at (808) 400-5003. You can also book online or use our contact form to receive additional information.